You may recognise this Daddy-Pup duo from out and about on the fetish scene, their kink friendly, sex education YouTube channel – Watts The Safeword or their other online “sexploits”. It’s fair to say these guys are fetish connoisseurs. We caught up with them in the Mr S Leather studio in San Francisco to discuss their relationship and all things BDSM.
The conversation starts at the beginning. “The pup came along at a time in my life when I was in transition of a relationship, and he taught me all about puppies. He’s been the best companion I’ve had ever since…” shares mrKristofer, when talking about how they met almost five years ago.
PupAmp goes on to explain that they met at IML and knew of mrKristofer’s online bondage work beforehand. mrKristofer remembers the moment, “I was tying up boys for demos and he was skulking around hoping to get tied up. He had such a sexy ass I was like… Do you want to get tied up?!”
In the beginning their Daddy-Pup relationship was very open and all about casual play. They didn’t refer to themselves as dating or boyfriends, it was just about affection and taking care of one another. “There was definitely some love involved there.” PupAmp says, describing how they started. mrKristofer emphasises that there was a lot of love, but he was a little standoffish. “I told him that I wasn’t ready for another relationship and he said, ‘That’s ok, I’m just a puppy. I’m here to make you happy.’ I thought, now that I can do!”
Over time they evolved into what they are today. They’ve had poly family relationships where other guys have come in and out. They’ve even had relationships independent of each other but, mrKristofer describes PupAmp as his rock, stating “Nobody argues with the puppy, puppy is always right.”
Conducting an open relationship of any kind can be tricky but PupAmp gives this piece of advice. “FOMO exists, there’s always going to be jealously here and there. It’s a matter of being really good at communicating. I think kinksters statistically are better at doing [this], and just being able say how something makes you feel and being able to work past that. We’re not built for monogamy.”
With that in mind, we were intrigued to find how and what they used Recon for. Both are very particular when viewing member profiles, using what they find there to make informed decisions about whether to engage. “I tend to look at a person’s pictures first and foremost” says PupAmp, “Their descriptions, [then] if they have friends or people you can reference.” For him, all of this information comes together to get a sense of how credible a player they are. mrKristofer agrees with this tactic but adds “…It is where I get most of the people I play with.”
A word of warning before you hit the cruise button on mrKristofer’s profile, though: have variety in your photos, and if they feature any bondage, make sure it’s not sloppy. Asked for a bad example he states “[A] single granny knot to a chair at the wrong pressure points. You can determine someone’s skill level.” Then explaining why good bondage matters, “BDSM is such a special experience. It’s a power control thing. That’s what I find sexy, tying someone down or being tied down. You are giving the other person complete control to do anything.”
PupAmp recalls how he learned bondage through watching kinky porn. His younger self always wished there was some sort of fetish figure that he could look up to for advice and guidance. Being a child of the internet, he wanted to see gay, kinky, sex positive content creators. The lack of this type of content inspired him and friend, Bolt to create their own YouTube channel, Watts the Safeword – which has found huge success.
When Bolt moved to Seattle, mrKristofer stepping up to co-host Watts the Safeword and to share his unique take on fetish. They have guests and viewers reach out to them, picking topics for them to discuss in their videos. They’ve effectively created the supportive online community that a young PupAmp always craved. Their ability to make educational fetish content for all – regardless of gender and sexuality – empowers viewers and provides them with the tools to go forth and explore their own kinks. The couple are doing their bit to make the scene as visible as possible, which can only further the fetish community as a whole.
When asked what we can all do to strengthen the community, mrKristofer smiles “Having a puppy has taught me to be more accepting of other people’s kinks. I come from an older background where it’s ‘This is the way you do leather and anything outside of how we learned to do leather is wrong.’ We need to be more accepting that everyone has different kinks and fetishes. It’s grown exponentially over the last few years and we have to accept all of it.”
We couldn’t agree more.Follow @that_sandy Follow @ReconNews
The Cum Dump Phenomenon
Master Jerry helps us understand it.
The continuing evolution of the sexuality of gay men is endlessly fascinating. There’s obviously enormous diversity in the attitude and outlook of gay men in terms of sex.
The reality of being a cum-dump probably has a proud history that stretches throughout time, but embracing it as a sexual identity feels like a relatively new phenomenon.
On social networks like Twitter, and also on dating apps, a large number of users are now identifying themselves as cum-dumps.
Studios like Treasure Island Media and SX Video were among the first to embrace the fetishisation of cum. But, in recent years, many more porn studios seem to have embraced the trend.
A quick search on the video sharing website Pornhub presents you with more that 300 results. The most popular video has more than 1 million views.
It left us wondering, how did it all start?
To help us understand the phenomenon, we interviewed Master Jerry, a Twitter resident expert on cum dumps.
What is a Cum Dump?
Although self-explanatory, we thought it would be a good idea to start with a definition of the term.
Cum-dump is used to describe a man that wants to have as many men as possible cumming in his mouth or asshole. Because the fetishisation of cum is the sexual force behind it, men usually don’t use condoms.
Master Jerry simplifies the term by describing a cum dump as “a guy who’s willing to take all loads – no questions asked”.
The Evolution of Cum Dump
This is a concept that probably emerged from the nihilistic bug-chaser sub-culture, where the rush from no-condom sex was fuelled by the fear of catching a life-threatening infection. Thanks to medical advances like TasP and PrEP, and the reduction in HIV transmission rates, many gay men now feel empowered to embrace the cum-dump experience and identity.
With the fear and danger out of the equation, the appeal of being a cum-dump now comes from a symbiosis between power and control.
“I love sloppy 20ths. I also love being in control”, reveals Master Jerry.
Although there is an element of control, Master Jerry’s dynamic usually doesn’t involve any BDSM kind of fetish kink, “It’s about both cum dumps and the tops having fun”.
From underground to mainstream
When you’re looking at a gang-fuck scenario, the guy in the centre of the action is the cum dump – taking multiple loads of cum in the ass.
“Cum is the best lube – bar none”
Proud of his cum dumps, Master Jerry created is own hashtag on Twitter – #MasterJerryCumDump.
People from all over the world, including some famous names in the gay adult industry, use it to tag their best ‘cum dump’ pictures.
“My cum dump stable star is MuscleDaddyBottom on BBRT. Also Xybbbottomguy on BBRT is one of my popular stable cum-dumps”.
When asked what was his ultimate cum dump fantasy, Master Jerry replies:
“I’ve pretty much lived my ultimate cum dump fantasies. But I guess that something I’d like to explore is setting up eight cum dumps side-by-side, taking all loads. I’d also like to take a couple of hot cum dumps out into the streets and whore them out to random guys in downtown alleyways.”
Find out more about Master Jerry and join his stable:Follow @MasterJerryXXX
Hot Guys7 days ago
Rick Luciano is hitting the gym
NSFW2 days ago
The Cum Dump Phenomenon
Hot Guys4 days ago
Jay Alexander: a proud ‘power-vers’
Hot Guys3 weeks ago
Going deep with HungerFF
Man Crush7 days ago
King Marti is doing it just for the fans
Hot Guys3 months ago
Hung Young Brit: Creating reality porn
Style & Trends12 months ago
What does the Fox say?
NSFW1 month ago
How to navigate a gay sex club