I caught up with Twitter buddy UndieLover and asked him a few personal questions.
Can you remember the first time you jacked-off?
I don’t really remember much about when I first jacked off. I would guess it was around the age of 11 or 12. I remember a lot of wanking back then.
I was at home in my bedroom. I was looking through a catalogue, at the men’s underwear section
How did you feel when you first jacked off?
I don’t recall any specific feelings. Great obviously, that post-wank high. I never felt it was bad. There was no guilt or anything like that.
Did you talk about it with anyone?
I used to have conversations with my mates — young guy banter. We’d talk lots about jerking off, and how often we did it.
Did you try any different techniques in those early years?
I used a few different techniques — standard hand-job, fucking my fist, rubbing against the bed in a fucking style. I seem to remember that fucking the space between the mattress and the bed base was a favourite
I wasn’t using any lube — I make a lot of pre-cum, so I’ve never really needed lube.
How has your jack-off style evolved over the years?
I’ve developed different ways of wanking. There’s the quick just-need-to-empty-my-balls wank. Then there’s the long, slow edging over a few hours — usually using a pair of pants I’ve swapped with a guy, sniffing, rubbing myself with them.
I know more now how to please myself in different ways.
What’s your preferred way to jack-off currently?
I like to mix it up. My absolute favourite way would be at a sauna, party, or cruising ground. Long, slow-stroke wanking to attract the attention of others.
For solo wanking, my favourite method is being naked, lying on the bed. Long, slow strokes to begin with. Free hand playing with my balls. Running a finger round my ass-hole. Then building gently to faster and shorter strokes. Mixing the two. Either taking myself to the edge and halting if wanting to have a slow, drawn-out edging wank, or bringing myself to a big sticky climax.
What jack-off hints or tips would you give a young guy just starting to explore his sexuality?
Explore and learn about yourself. Try different methods, positions, places, states of undress. Slip a finger in your ass, rub on your balls, tweak your nipples. Try fast and furious and long and slow. Alternate. Explore and enjoy.
After all, the more you know the more you can guide sexual partners so that you get a great time.Follow @lover_undie
Meet Mr Kristofer and Pup Amp
A masterclass in pup-play.
You may recognise this Daddy-Pup duo from out and about on the fetish scene, their kink friendly, sex education YouTube channel – Watts The Safeword or their other online “sexploits”. It’s fair to say these guys are fetish connoisseurs. We caught up with them in the Mr S Leather studio in San Francisco to discuss their relationship and all things BDSM.
The conversation starts at the beginning. “The pup came along at a time in my life when I was in transition of a relationship, and he taught me all about puppies. He’s been the best companion I’ve had ever since…” shares mrKristofer, when talking about how they met almost five years ago.
PupAmp goes on to explain that they met at IML and knew of mrKristofer’s online bondage work beforehand. mrKristofer remembers the moment, “I was tying up boys for demos and he was skulking around hoping to get tied up. He had such a sexy ass I was like… Do you want to get tied up?!”
In the beginning their Daddy-Pup relationship was very open and all about casual play. They didn’t refer to themselves as dating or boyfriends, it was just about affection and taking care of one another. “There was definitely some love involved there.” PupAmp says, describing how they started. mrKristofer emphasises that there was a lot of love, but he was a little standoffish. “I told him that I wasn’t ready for another relationship and he said, ‘That’s ok, I’m just a puppy. I’m here to make you happy.’ I thought, now that I can do!”
Over time they evolved into what they are today. They’ve had poly family relationships where other guys have come in and out. They’ve even had relationships independent of each other but, mrKristofer describes PupAmp as his rock, stating “Nobody argues with the puppy, puppy is always right.”
Conducting an open relationship of any kind can be tricky but PupAmp gives this piece of advice. “FOMO exists, there’s always going to be jealously here and there. It’s a matter of being really good at communicating. I think kinksters statistically are better at doing [this], and just being able say how something makes you feel and being able to work past that. We’re not built for monogamy.”
With that in mind, we were intrigued to find how and what they used Recon for. Both are very particular when viewing member profiles, using what they find there to make informed decisions about whether to engage. “I tend to look at a person’s pictures first and foremost” says PupAmp, “Their descriptions, [then] if they have friends or people you can reference.” For him, all of this information comes together to get a sense of how credible a player they are. mrKristofer agrees with this tactic but adds “…It is where I get most of the people I play with.”
A word of warning before you hit the cruise button on mrKristofer’s profile, though: have variety in your photos, and if they feature any bondage, make sure it’s not sloppy. Asked for a bad example he states “[A] single granny knot to a chair at the wrong pressure points. You can determine someone’s skill level.” Then explaining why good bondage matters, “BDSM is such a special experience. It’s a power control thing. That’s what I find sexy, tying someone down or being tied down. You are giving the other person complete control to do anything.”
PupAmp recalls how he learned bondage through watching kinky porn. His younger self always wished there was some sort of fetish figure that he could look up to for advice and guidance. Being a child of the internet, he wanted to see gay, kinky, sex positive content creators. The lack of this type of content inspired him and friend, Bolt to create their own YouTube channel, Watts the Safeword – which has found huge success.
When Bolt moved to Seattle, mrKristofer stepping up to co-host Watts the Safeword and to share his unique take on fetish. They have guests and viewers reach out to them, picking topics for them to discuss in their videos. They’ve effectively created the supportive online community that a young PupAmp always craved. Their ability to make educational fetish content for all – regardless of gender and sexuality – empowers viewers and provides them with the tools to go forth and explore their own kinks. The couple are doing their bit to make the scene as visible as possible, which can only further the fetish community as a whole.
When asked what we can all do to strengthen the community, mrKristofer smiles “Having a puppy has taught me to be more accepting of other people’s kinks. I come from an older background where it’s ‘This is the way you do leather and anything outside of how we learned to do leather is wrong.’ We need to be more accepting that everyone has different kinks and fetishes. It’s grown exponentially over the last few years and we have to accept all of it.”
We couldn’t agree more.Follow @that_sandy Follow @ReconNews
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