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How to navigate a gay sex club

Dick Baker shares his play-book.

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Ever wondered how a gay sex club or a sex party works? I caught up for a coffee with my Twitter buddy Dick Baker to swap tips on how to navigate a club full of horned-up guys.

What led you to try out a sex club for the first time?

Hard On in London was the first sex club party that I went to. I’d never been to anything like that before, but I’d heard a lot about it on social media. I wanted to experience it, to try it out, experiment. I wanted to see if it was any good.

How does a club like Hard On work?

You walk in, and then you get changed.

The dress code for Hard On isn’t as strict as some other places. Hard On caters to a wide range of fetishes — rubber, leather, sports wear, or full-on naked

They have a basic locker-room changing area, so you don’t have to ride the tube in your gear.

But you are getting changed in front of everyone — this isn’t the place to come to if you’re modest or shy.

What did you wear on your first visit to Hard On?

A jock-strap, sports socks, and a harness.

These days I always start off wearing a jock-strap, but I end up taking that off pretty quickly and just stuff it in one of my socks so I don’t lose it. I get more attention when I’m naked.

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Who do you go with?

I generally go by myself.

There’s hundreds of guys there, but it can sometimes feel a bit lonely by yourself. I generally know a few people there, people to chat with when you’re grabbing a drink or having a smoke.

Dick Backer in front of Clozone in London
Dick Backer in front of Clozone store in Soho, London | Photo supplied

It would be nice to go with a group of guys, that way you can go off and have some fun and then come back together to drink and chat and dance.

What’s the layout of a club like Hard On?

Downstairs there’s the main dance floor, the main bar, and two play areas. Upstairs is the main dark room, sofas, and a corridor with slings, benches, and private cabins.

It gets so busy that sometimes you feel like you can’t move.

What’s your general strategy?

It depends a bit on how I’m feeling, but generally I walk in, get changed, have a bit of a dance, walk around and scope out the place, then go upstairs and see what happens.

Generally, it doesn’t take more than eye contact. You lock eyes with a guy and you know — okay, here we go.

If it’s busy, sometimes a guy will just wrap his hand around my cock to get my attention.

What happens if someone is making eye contact with you or trying to get your attention and you’re not up for it?

You can just ignore their attempts at eye contact. If someone touches me and I’m not interested, my facial expressions are very expressive and can send a clear message. If someone doesn’t get the message then I’m just very direct and tell them that I’m not interested. That rarely ever happens though, as long as you’re clear with your signals you won’t have a problem.

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Dick Backer in front of Clozone store in Soho, London | Photo supplied

You shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything you don’t want to do, or behave in a certain way. The venue is just providing the environment and the opportunity, it’s up to you to find your own pace.

You can just have a bit of fun with a couple of guys, or you can get comfortable in a sling in the dark room and make it clear that you’re not bothered by who is taking a turn on you.

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How many times would you have sex at a party like Hard On?

I usually have some fun upstairs, cum, go downstairs to get some water and have a cigarette, have a dance, then head back upstairs for some more fun.

Generally I’ll cum at least twice, possibly three or four times.

I take Viagra when I got to a party like Hard On. It means I’m always ready for action and can last for longer. I also wear a cock-ring — I wear a necklace with some of my favourite cock-rings.

What sort of guys go to a party like Hard On?

All sorts of guys. I’m 31, but there’s a varied mix of guys of all ages. I’ve noticed recently that the crowd seems to be getting younger — maybe PrEP has something to do with that.

There’s lots of condoms available at Hard On, but generally guys don’t use them. It’s a personal choice — they’re readily available if you want them.

What hints or tips would you give to someone who was thinking about going to their first sex club party?

Try and go with a friend, at least for the first few times. Know what you want — set yourself some boundaries.

Fetish gear can be really expensive, but you can just go with something simple. A jockstrap and a pair of sports socks is a classic look — you’re covered but not covered.

If you want a harness of some kind, you don’t have to splash out on a leather harness, there are fabric harness options available that are more affordable.

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Dick Backer inside the Clozone store in Soho, London | Photo supplied

You don’t have to look like the guy on the poster. There’s lots of ordinary, everyday guys at these parties. Everyone is just out for a good time.

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Jack Andy is unashamed and insatiable

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I caught up with Jack Andy to talk about porn, fantasies, and underwear.

What led you to start exploring a career in porn?

It was from a feeling of not belonging where I was. I found by getting into porn, I ran into more people who were just like me - sexual, unashamed, quirky, nerdy, and insatiable at times - it was great finding a sense of community.

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No other community leans on each other the way the porn world does - directors, photographers, and fellow actors alike. People who do this are the best. If you look down on it, your life is missing out of some the most colourful people you’ll ever meet.

Would you describe yourself as an exhibitionist?

Not really, but there was never much that bothered me about being sexual anyway. I’d do whatever in public, if it were allowed and the mood struck me.

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Who are some of your gay porn heroes or inspirations?

Mr. Pam - once you get a taste of her energy, you’ll understand. Johnny V, he’s always fucking happy. Scott DeMarco, because he gives my life meaning.

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What’s your ultimate gay porn fantasy?

Well, I’ve lived out most of mine. Done it in public, gang-banged in public, stairwell, street ally, art museum, bathroom stall, car, light and heavy BDSM, DP - there’ s not much left.

Can we talk underwear?

I usually don’t wear any unless I’m at work and then that’s all I wear. It’s usually the sluttiest thing I can find.

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What are some of your goals and aspirations for the months ahead?

Get my cam-show back started at Flirt4Free, get a few good regulars, and spoil my boyfriend whenever I can. Life is pretty simple.

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