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A visual excerpt from the cover of my book, “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?” A visual excerpt from the cover of my book, “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?”

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A visual excerpt from the cover of my book, “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?”

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At the beginning of 2018, I went out with Filip, a Czech guy in Prague, and had, if not the dinner date of a lifetime, one of the best I’d have all year. He picked me up at my rental apartment in Smíchov and drove us to a Thai restaurant in the Staré Město (Prague’s Old Town), where we shared a meal, two bottles of wine, and some excellent conversation.

After dinner, he drove me home, and we made out in his car and on my couch. He didn’t spend the night because he had to work the next morning, and I was leaving even earlier to catch a train to Bratislava in Slovakia.

It was such a happy ending to my week in the Czech capital that I didn’t even hold our conversation about the C-word (“colored”) against him. I’ve forgotten how and why it came up, but when it did, he said he didn’t understand why black people hate when white people call them “colored.” He once dated a black guy in New York City who gave him the silent treatment for an entire day because he managed to slip it into a casual conversation.

I wondered how a well-travelled grown-ass man in his mid-thirties could be so ignorant. How could a European guy who speaks fluent English and has actually lived in New York City and dated a black American still not have a grasp on black American culture?

I gave him a history lesson about black Americans and the C-word. He seemed to be listening, but I could tell from his blank expression, the lack of Aha! in his eyes, that we wasn’t really processing what I was saying.

So I dropped it. Things were going well otherwise, and he was tall and sexy, and I was stupid in like.

We’ve kept in touch over the past year, and a few weeks ago, before my return to Prague, where I’ll be spending most of the holiday season, I let him know I was coming soon. He said he would be out of town in Moravia the first few days after I arrived, but he’d get in touch when he returned, and we’d make dinner plans.

Hello, again
Six days after he got back, I finally heard from him, via a message he sent at 3.34 on Saturday morning. He didn’t text me on WhatsApp, where we’d been communicating, but on Grindr.

Hey handsome

I had a bf of colour in NY and I miss that big cock :))

What are tou up to? Got more pics?

I figured he must have been drunk when he wrote the message, but unlike his inability to understand the black significance of the C-word (or his lack of interest in trying), this was a dealbreaker. Over the past year spent traveling through Eastern Europe, I’ve learned a lot about myself, about gay white European men and how many of them use size to diminish black men, about subtle racism disguised as innocence and ignorance.

Had Filip and I met a week ago and had the same conversation about the C-word that we had in January, I would have cut him off right there. My tolerance for racial bullshit is now at an all-time low after a year of constantly stepping in it.

I’ve been chased by so many white European guys to whom I was nothing more than a big black cock — at least based on their stereotypical assumptions — that, for the most part, I’ve stopped giving all of them the time of day… or night.

That has meant putting sex on the backburner and sticking to less revealing activities. I figure it’s the best way to weed out the horny boys from the men who are interested in me as a person and not just as the exotic black penis. I edited my Grindr profile to reflect my new attitude.

Clearly, Filip didn’t bother to read it. I debated whether I should respond on Grindr or on WhatsApp, or whether I should respond at all. I decided that I had to. I’d let his ignorance about the C-word go, but this, too, shall not pass. I figured that since he’d messaged me on Grindr, that would be the appropriate place to respond.

Wow. Are men of colour so interchangeable to you that you don’t even recognise one you’ve already met? Disappointing.

Thirteen minutes later, he responded: Jeremy is that you?? :)))

He still didn’t get it. He still didn’t understand a thing about racism and objectification and how to approach a talk dark stranger. After an hour of radio silence from me, he sent two more text messages and two photos, a close-up face pic and one of him standing in front of the Eiffel Tower.

Hello 🙂

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You got a name?

Silence.

I already had dropped Filip in the discard pile with all the other guys who are so hungry for/curious about big black cock that they fail to see the men behind them. I may stand out. They may notice me because I stand out. But I never feel more invisible than after they’ve approached me.

A visual excerpt from the cover of my book, “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?”
A visual excerpt from the cover of my book, “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?”

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Thinking about getting a Prince Albert?

Jack Pierce: “Be prepared for a knowing wink at airport security.”

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Jack Pierce (image supplied)
Jack Pierce (image supplied)

I caught up with Jack Pierce to talk about piercings and the allure of a Prince Albert.

What led you to decide to get a PA?

I’d always liked the look of a dick with a PA, I still do. Even the initial small gauge piercing ring looks great on a cock. I’d been fucked a few times by guys with PAs, and it felt really good inside me. I wanted the guys that I had sex with to experience the same with me.

Were you nervous?

All the guys I’ve spoken with about it agree that it takes a while to pluck up the courage to visit the piercer to get the deed done. For me, it was a good six months between deciding to have a PA and actually getting it done. On the particular day I got it, I hadn’t planned to do it that day, I just decided during the morning at work to pop into town and get it done. A bad move as it turned out!

The piercer applied numbing spray to my uncut head, and we waited for 10 minutes. Nervous and anticipating the upcoming pain, I lied and told him there was still feeling there. More was sprayed on.

With me watching and holding my now semi-erect penis — apparently a common occurrence according to my piercer — the needle was swiftly pushed through the head and the ring followed it and was fastened. Painless, thanks to the numbness of my cock.

Back at work less than an hour later, my decision to have the piercing done in the middle of my work day was shown not to be the best idea — the bleeding started and the numbness wore off. I headed home early.

Jack Pierce (image supplied)

How long does it take to heal?

The healing process took about four weeks, with the easing of a month of pissing broken glass. It may have been sooner, but as with many recipients of this particular type of piercing I was keen to try it out. Learning to piss with an additional hole down there is also something I hadn’t planned for. Thankfully, I have a foreskin to help direct the streams.

The usual morning glory proved to be painful for the first couple of weeks, but that didn’t stop me from using it for its desired purpose within the first week. In retrospect, with the size of the ring put in it wouldn’t have made a considerable difference to the recipient, despite the ring being unencumbered by a condom. I had sex with the ring in before I had tried masturbating.

What size gauge have you currently got in?

I’m currently sporting a 0 gauge or 8mm ring. This has an internal diameter of 28mm, with a 12mm ball.

After the initial sizing up to a mere 4mm after six months, I had a period where I was satisfied with the size and didn’t feel the need to increase. I’ve had the PA for 15 years now, and had a period of a few years where I had no ring in at all thanks to a partner who didn’t like it. The things we do for love!

Once that relationship was over, I decided to try to reopen the piercing myself. I bought a new ring, and it went in without the need to visit a piercer. Thankfully, the hole was still open. Since this rediscovery, I’ve sized up from 4mm to 6mm to 8mm every six months. Will I size up again? Probably.

What sort of maintenance is required?

Maintenance during the healing process is vitally important to prevent infection, but it’s not rocket science.

After sizing up, it can be a good idea to apply a little lube every now and then to ensure the new, larger ring runs through the hole smoothly while the natural stretching takes place.

Once healed, very little maintenance is required. It just becomes part of your regular genital hygiene, and should always be washed after a sexual encounter to prevent a UTI. A larger ring on a big cock can reach the parts other cocks can’t reach, so this last post-sex procedure is pretty important.

Be prepared for the ring not to be as clean when it comes out as when it went in, especially after a rough session.

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What sort of reaction do you get from guys?

Even today, this type of piercing doesn’t seem to be too common — lots of guys tell me that I’m their first. The presence of the ring can put some guys off, especially with the size of ring I have in at the moment.

Guys who are experienced with a PA are adept at taking the ring orally, without the fear of damaging teeth. The wearer of the ring must be prepared to have the frequency of oral sex decreased if, like me, they’re unwilling to remove the ring.

As an experienced top who isn’t accustomed to inflicting pain on a guy — unless requested — I always prepare a guy’s ass for the experience. Being girthy down there anyway, it’s something which is a part of my sexual routine. Once inside, I’m told that the ring adds to the experience and can be used to massage the prostate. A hands-free ejaculation from the recipient is a common occurrence.

Jack Pierce (image supplied)

Do you always fuck with it in?

I always fuck with the ring in. I won’t remove it — guys I meet are aware of the presence and size of the ring before we fuck, so I ensure that it’s not a surprise to them when the jock comes off.

There has been the odd occasion where my cock has had a lot of action during a weekend — especially where un-lubed holes have been involved — and I can be a little sore. To help this, I prefer to size-down the jewellery as opposed to go ring-free. It really does feel strange without a ring in there.

If someone was thinking about getting a PA, what advice or guidance would you give them?

I’ve never regretted having my piercing, the initial discomfort is soon forgotten. The benefits of having a ring in the end of your cock are many. The addition of a ring makes a good-looking cock look even better. The orgasm you get when masturbating is heightened considerably, so it’s something a guy who usually bottoms should also consider. The sexual experience for both the owner of the ring and the recipient is improved to the point that you will never want to fuck without it.

If you’re thinking of taking a needle down there, my advice would be to just go for it. What have you got to lose? Pay close attention to the healing hygiene process, which is as easy as dangling your dick in a glass of sea-salted water once a day for a few weeks. Plus, you should be prepared for the knowing wink you’ll receive at the airport metal detector.

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