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I caught up with Twitter buddy ChiWestBurbGuy and asked him a few personal questions.

Can you remember the first time you jacked-off?

I was a pre-teen the first time if made myself cum. It was in bed late at night. I rubbed the very tip of my dick back and forth on the satin edge of my blanket until I started ejaculating, but no cum came out.

How did you feel when you first jacked off?

I was kind of scared because my penis wouldn’t stop throbbing even though no semen came out. I thought that I’d broken it! I almost woke my dad up to ask him if that was normal.

Did you talk about it with anyone?

I’ve never shared that experience with anyone until now.

Did you try any different techniques in those early years?

Besides rubbing the very tip of my dick on fabrics, I liked rubbing the skin under the head, humping a pillow, and the normal fist jack off. I loved edging myself. At that time I only ever used spit for lube.

Can you remember the first time you talked to someone else about jacking off?

I’d sometimes talk about jacking with a few guys I knew in middle school.

How has your jack-off style evolved over the years?

I eventually began liking a dildo or vibrator up my ass when jacking, also wearing a cock ring. A Tenga deep-throat cup takes jacking to the next level.

I started out jacking to International Male catalogues, then transitioned to porn mags. Now, that’s been replaced with internet porn.

What’s your preferred way to jack-off currently?

I prefer to jack-off with a bunch of guys online in a group video chat room. I love seeing other guys jack their hard meat and shoot.

I mix it up with porn, dildos and vibrators up my ass, as well as Tenga toys.

What jack-off hints or tips would you give a young guy just starting to explore his sexuality?

Try anything and everything safe that feels good in order to get to know your dick and your body. Get to know how it feels to be anally penetrated. All men, gay or straight, need to know what that feels like and how it enhances an orgasm. Don’t be afraid to share your jack-off experiences with other guys. Don’t be afraid to jack off with other buds. Jacking is just a man enjoying and exalting in his manhood.

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Are we living in a post-HIV world?
In recent years we’ve seen a seismic shift in the effectiveness of treatment for HIV, as well as the emergence of PrEP — medication that prevents you from acquiring HIV.

This combination of factors has contributed towards a dramatic change in the attitude of gay men towards HIV, health, and sex.

It’s been difficult for public health policy to keep up, but it’s also difficult for older gay men like me to get our heads around the changing landscape of sex.

Official reports indicate that AIDS has killed over 35 million people worldwide. It’s estimated that around the world there are currently over 37 million people living with HIV.

In June of 1981, when the beginnings of the HIV pandemic were first being identified, I was approaching my ninth birthday. Lucky I guess, too young to be impacted by the first devastating waves of the virus that killed so many young gay men.

As I was beginning to discover sex, the public health messages very strongly articulated that sex without a condom equalled death.

It’s a bit hard to describe how that constant fear of infection and death shapes your view and experience of sex. I guess I’ve got no way of knowing what things would have been like without that — I like to think that it might have been something like San Francisco in the 70s, or a long, lust-filled summer on Fire Island.

I survived. I was careful. I was lucky.

It wasn’t until I saw the 2003 documentary The Gift that I became aware of the fetishisation of HIV, and a growing movement of men who embraced the risk and health consequences of fucking without condoms, of letting guys cum in you, the thrill of raw, or ‘bareback’ sex between men. It was an uninhibited hedonism best captured by the porn of Paul Morris and Treasure Island Media.

It’s easy to judge and disapprove of risk-taking behaviour, but there was something incredibly compelling about this type of no-holds-barred sex — no fear, no care for consequences.

The improvements in medication and the emergence of PrEP have now made bareback sex the norm. Not only in porn — where it’s now highly unusual to see anyone using a condom — but also in everyday life.

Health professionals sensibly remind us that condoms are still worth wearing as they protect us from a whole range of sexually transmitted infections, not just HIV, but the reality is that for many men sex is better when you don’t have to wear a condom.

For me, it’s a bit of a mind-trip that testing positive for HIV is no longer a death-sentence, that you can have sex without a condom and not worry if one of you might have the virus. That you can have no-holds-barred sex, with no fear, and no care for consequences.

It’s fantastic that today’s young gay guys, who are just beginning to discover and explore sex, don’t have to worry about HIV. Obviously they need to learn about it, they need to have access to PrEP, and they need to understand the full gamut of sexual health, but it’s just part of life.

Let’s not forget our history, let’s not forget the people we’ve lost, but let’s be thankful that young guys today are growing up in a world that’s something a bit like San Francisco in the 70s, or a long, lust-filled summer on Fire Island.

We may now be living in a post-HIV world.

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