I’m a curious person, so I reached out to Cuckold Husband to dig a bit deeper.
When did you discover and start to explore a gay cuckold fantasy?
Like most people, I honed in on my fetish through porn. I discovered my interest in BDSM and foot fetish. I discovered that I was submissive. But I always kept returning to cuckold porn. I never watched other forms of straight porn, but straight cuckold porn was the only outlet that had the power dynamic that I identified with. Gay cuckold porn is non-existent.
How would you define a gay cuckold?
I think being a cuckold is mostly self-identification. Some people think of it as simply being a sub or being denied orgasm.
For me, it’s a gay man whose partner has sex with other men — with or without the cuck’s approval — and this causes erotic humiliation and shame to the cuckold.
Why is the cuckold scenario something that fuels your fantasy?
I’m not exactly sure what it is about this scenario that appeals to me so strongly. I’ve always been monogamous-minded, and I’m completely monogamous to my husband. Him seeking sexual pleasure from others challenges that. To me, it’s taboo and exciting.
There’s also lots of BDSM aspects to this — being denied orgasm, being humiliated, being compared to a more masculine male.
An added element for me is that I’m 98 percent top, and having another man provide more satisfaction to my husband than I can is incredibly hot for me.
How long have you been running your Twitter profile dedicated to gay cuckold fantasies?
I started my Twitter account about two years ago, as a companion piece to my Tumblr. I never expected that I’d have so many people interested in the content that I post. I have 28,000 followers on Tumblr.
What sort of feedback and engagement do you get from your followers?
I get mixed reactions from people on social media. The main one is from other gay cuckolds who are glad that they’ve found an outlet. Many think that they’re the only ones who feel this way or have this fetish. It’s not very common in the gay community. A lot of what I talk about online is real life applications of the fetish and our fantasies. Including aftercare.
I also have some people message me with criticism. People who criticise me for the fetishism of ‘cheating.’ The most of criticism I’ve heard is from gay men who feel like the fetish shouldn’t belong with gay men, that it’s too hetero-normative, that it relies too much on the expectation of monogamy, and that queer people should not feel the sexual shame that a lot of us cuckolds exhibit.
Have you ever explored your gay cuckold fantasies in real life?
I have, and it’s gone great! Although, my experiences are not as prolific as the fantasy I portray online. My husband and I got married young, and were monogamous for the first ten years of our relationship. We intended to remain that way.
Although I’ve had cuckold fantasies since my late-teens, I didn’t share them with my husband. I thought they were too weird or that he wouldn’t understand them. As he grew older, his sexuality blossomed, and he started talking about the potential of opening up our marriage. That’s all the nudging I needed!
I sent him a couple articles about cuckolding in general, and gay cuckolding specifically. I told him how much I identified with that. He surprised me by quickly falling in love with the role of ‘hot husband.’ It gives him a sense of power and desirability.
In our marriage, he’s free to have sex with other men. But I’m not. We do have rules in place — for us, it’s important that the interactions with the ‘bulls’ is a physical one and not an emotional or romantic one. Plus, I get to hear all the juicy details, or I get to watch.
What’s your ultimate gay cuckold fantasy?
Coming home from work locked in my chastity cage. I open the front door, I can hear my husband moaning upstairs and the bed creaking. I enter the bedroom to find my husband being pounded by an alpha stud.
The bull ties me up, gags me, and continues to fuck my husband right in front of me, and I’m forced to watch. They both humiliate me verbally, including SPH — small penis humiliation. My husband is looking straight at me and is obviously having the time of his life.
After the other guy leaves, my husband unties me and teases me while I rim him. He tells me how much bigger and better the other guy was.
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Can we talk underwear?
Junior has over 800 in his underwear drawer. Is that a record?
I caught up with Twitter-buddy Junior from Belgium to talk about his addiction to underwear.
When did you first become interested in men’s underwear?
I think it was because my mum made me wear those old-looking classic white briefs, while the other kids in school were wearing more colourful briefs and boxers — I wanted to wear that too.
One day, I was about 10, my mother and I went shopping for new clothes. I saw these cool white briefs that had a wide rainbow coloured waistband. I got a few of them and I loved them, and didn’t want to wear anything else anymore. I think that’s when my interest in underwear started.
When did you first realise that you had a sexual connection with men’s underwear?
A few years after I got those rainbow waistband briefs, when I was about 15, I could buy my own clothes. The underwear section in the store was my favourite place to be. I got hard seeing all those lovely, beautiful and cool undies. I bought a lot.
The boys in school became jealous because they wore baggy boxers or boxer briefs while I wore trunks and hipsters. I loved wearing other boys’ undies when they left them in the changing rooms.
How have you explored that sexual connection or fetish over the years?
Underwear is a big part of my life. When I see a guy bend over, I always try to see what he’s wearing.
One thing is for sure — I like clean, neat, new underwear. I don’t mind cum stains, but my fetish stops when they’re too smelly or dirty, or a really old pair.
Why is Twitter a good way to share your interest in underwear?
On Twitter you can share photos that are seen as ‘inappropriate’ for other platforms. My Instagram account was deleted for posting a photo of an underwear bulge.
It’s also a good way to interaction with other users.
How do you connect with other guys with a sexual interest in men’s underwear?
Twitter, briefsmania.com, and Grindr are all good places to connect with other guys who are into underwear.
I like to go to underwear parties, or date men who have the same interest.
Is there a level of exhibitionism with your underwear fetish?
I guess so. When I’m on the beach, I don’t mind wearing my undies to lay down my towel — I walk around a bit before putting on my swim-briefs. Same at the gym, I’m the one walking, chatting, and talking the longest in my underwear in the locker room. I don’t mind wearing thongs or jockstraps in the locker room, which is unusual in Belgium. I also like to show off my underwear waistband above my jeans.
Do your friends or family know about your passion for underwear?
I think most of my friends and family know. I’m the one always shopping for special underwear. When they want to give me something for my birthday or Christmas, they mostly give me gift cards to buy underwear.
How many pairs of underwear do you own?
I think I have about 800 pairs. But around 600 I keep in my drawers — the others are in my archive boxes. I have about 200 trunks and boxer briefs, 200 briefs, 100 jockstraps, 50 thongs, and 50 novelty ones.
Which are your favourite brands of underwear?
I have a lot of favourite brands. In the past it used to be HOM, Aussiebum, ES Collection, Calvin Klein and XTG. Now I like Garcon Model, Andrew Christian, Pistol Pete, Marco Marco, Addicted, and Alexander Cobb.
Which styles of underwear do you prefer?
I love to wear all styles — even baggy boxers. But if I have to order them it would be tanga briefs, briefs, boxer briefs, jockstraps, then thongs.
What are some of the next steps in exploring your fetish?
Meeting new men who have the same passion for underwear as I do. I can talk and chat with guys on Twitter and other websites, but I’d like to get in touch with more guys in Belgium who have the same interest as me. Perhaps one day I’ll host my own underwear parties.
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